A warrior is one who not only takes good care of themselves - they're healthy enough (physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually) to be strong for the community. To be strong for the community doesn't necessarily denote physical strength or stamina. It means being capable of becoming a leader. We say there's too many chiefs and not enough Indians...we can still be an Indian and a leader - we don't all have to be a chief.
A warrior isn't always a chief - warriors are individuals.
Warriors are unique.
A common thought is that a warrior is fighting - physically. A warrior is in battle constantly. Traditionally, those times were only for when they were needed, when they were called upon.
All warriors were driven towards the people. Their actions reflected the good of the people. When you're bringing the community down - you're not helping the people. You are bringing the people down.
To think in a warrior mentality you have to be ready at any and all times - yes...however, not just for war. But to give to the community. To lift your relatives up. To "face the storm" as they say. To look into trouble - not just physical, but mental, spiritual, emotional - and face it head on. When you're involved in your community - your community will be involved in you. They'll surround you when it's needed as you surrounded them whey they needed you.
We need to learn to take care of one another again. We need to care about our relatives.
We need to care of our grandmas - even the ones we don't really know. They're still someone's grandma. Urban communities - there's no reason you cannot be a citizen in your neighborhood and lift your neighborhood up in the city. It is still where you inhabit. It is still where you eat your dinner.
These types of actions tend to catch onto one another. Meaning - your neighbors could see you cleaning the garbage up on the street. You do that three weeks in a row and your neighbors decide to join you. Then someone down the street sees...pretty soon you have half of your community cleaning up every Saturday. Your actions do not have to be big and reach the world. But your actions should be what you can touch. What you have the ability to fix and help. As I said, we cannot all be Chiefs. Some of us have to stay in the community and be Indians. Some of us have to go to different communities and be an Indian and teach love and respect.
Teach that it's brave to cry.
Teach that it take courage to show emotion.
It takes strength to help our elders.
And it takes all of the above to support the women in the community.
As a good warrior, we can sit and reflect on a closer relative who is female. It could be our mother, our auntie, our grandma. Our best friend or cousin. etc. Any female that is important to an individual can be thought of - reflected upon. Those reflections should be made when making decisions on how to treat other females. Sometimes it's good to question oneself. Especially in situations where you may want to use the word "hooker”, “bitch”, “slut”, “whore”. etc. If we were to use those words towards the same loved one we hold in high regard - there is an emotion felt. Usually anger or sadness - how could someone say something so mean about my relative?
That is what we have to remember. The woman we are disrespecting is someone else's relative that cares about them the same.
We have to remember to show respect. As an individual we all carry our own thoughts. Our own meanings of words. Our own actions. But we need to take other people into account again instead of just being selfish and wanting things for ourselves.
It could be essential while learning to rethink how you speak - that you reflect on the women who are the most important in your life. When making some of the tiniest choices. decisions.
It's okay to hold a door - it's okay to tell a woman she has a nice necklace or a nice piece of jewelry because you admire it. You could compliment a lady "POLITELY" on how good she looks that day. However - we reflect on our relatives. Our female relatives. Our life givers - our carriers of babies. How would they feel if we took these conversations into another direction? What would we think as warriors if a strange man spoke this way to that relative?
Again - emotion could be felt when reflecting. Which is a good thing. As a warrior - today. We have to feel those emotions again. But we also have to think critically with those emotions. Because we now deal with a society that has laws. We are constrained by those laws - however, women are also constrained by those laws. Where they are unprotected. This is where it is said - cut the bullshit and remember what a warrior really is. Stop pretending you're helping your community if you are hurting it. If you are sitting and waiting for something to change - be a good relative and get up and go and start changing it.
Rethink what positivity means. Rethink what compassion means. Rethink what words have ever hurt you the most in your entire life. Question yourself - why would you say those things again to anyone else? Mindfulness is one of the toughest learning experiences a modern warrior may face. The concept is newer - and even sounds funny to some. Don't be afraid. words like compassion and mindfulness I've had to Google a bunch of times myself to understand.
Mindfulness must be met though - because it can be the area where emotions are met. If we have an angry emotion which we act upon - the constraints of our laws may confine us into jail. Those are thoughts which need to be kept as a good warrior - as you're not good to nobody if you're locked up. You're not good to your community if you're sitting in jail...and unless you're doing something positive while locked up you're' not doing any good to yourself either.
We have to remember also our children. Remember their laugh, remember how they hurt. Those are two sides of children which are common and we all know. Pain and happiness. Reflect on yourself again. What would you rather have as a child? Pain or happiness? Why not create a community of happy children? Why not approach children with love instead of angry voices? Why not use authority and teach our children what it's like to be a good relative towards one another?
There's so many ways we can all take part in our community. This post could go on forever - the ideas are there. It doesn't take me to give you ideas. I do not live in your community. I don't know where to start - and maybe you don't either...and that's okay.
Usually, the best place to start - is with yourself.
Reflect. Relearn yourself. We all have talents. Sometimes we leave our talents - and they go to waste. Sometimes we don't build upon our talents - but no matter how small they may be, our talents all together can rebuild our communities (and in turn, our nations). Again, if we're going to rebuild our communities, we need the "Indians", common people like me, and you. The chiefs have their own work to do - but we live in the communities. Only we can rebuild them.